But
Fred Jr. wanted to be a history teacher. "Ever since he'd been a kid, he
wanted to do that," Mark says. "At Washburn he was a masterful
history student. He wanted to teach it, and he held on to that. He'd say: 'I
have that right', and my dad would try to beat it out of him. My father would
make it clear to Fred Jr. that he wasn't going to teach history. He'd yell:
'You guys are mine and you're never gonna leave me!'" "Then always
follow with: 'And you better start gettin' it through your head right now!'
"I can remember my father beating Fred when he was 19 or 20 about that. I
couldn't believe my brother would even try to argue with him! My father
wouldn't hear of it. Fred Jr. was going to be a lawyer. "Eventually, I
think, my brother's spirit was broken and he became one. But it wasn't the
beatings that caused him to lose heart-it was Debbie Valgos." What follows
may be the saddest tale found during this investigation. It is a profound and
tragic example of the fruits of hatred when it is directed by the angry against
the innocent. Says Mark: "He was deeply in love with her, a girl from
"She
was cute, thin, blonde, and sexy," laughs Nate. "That name...,"
sighs one of the nuns from the orphanage, "is like a punch in the
stomach..." Debbie was not an orphan. She lived with her mother, Della A.,
and her stepfather, Paul A., on
When
she was 11 years old, for reasons undisclosed, Debbie was placed in
They
met at the skating rink. Sometimes Fred and Mark would trick their father. When
he thought they'd gone out on their obligatory 10 mile run, instead they'd go
skating. Or if they'd had a good night on candy sales, Jonathon, Nate, Mark,
and Fred would knock off early and hit the rink before going home. "Debbie
was a good skater," remembers Mark. "She came to the rink with other
kids from the orphanage. She skated fast and reckless." The voice over the
phone sounds as if it's smiling at the memory. "At first my brother saw her
secretly, during stolen moments. Then he'd go by the orphanage when the four of
us boys were out selling candy."
Mark
stops. "You should know, when I was 9 and Fred 10, we began to hear
degrading, insulting sermons from my father about how no good it is for boys to
have girl friends: "You'll meet a girl someday and she'll start saying
things like, "Aren't you cute; aren't you handsome; ooooooh, you're really
something", and like some kind of ignorant, stupid lamb being led to
slaughter, you'll fall for it, and the next thing you know, she'll want to kiss
you or some bullshit like that. I'm telling you now, I'm not going to put up
with it. If you think you're going to have some whore coming around sniffing
after you, you better know right now that I'm not going to put up with it. You
better start gettin' it through your head right now. You just have to trust the
Lord to provide you a good woman who will subject herself to the authority of
the church...'" Mark clears his throat. "They met, I think, in the
fall of 1970. On the candy sales, Fred would drive and I'd ride shotgun, with
Jon and Nate in back. We'd pick Debbie up on the way out and she'd sit between
us. "When we got there, the rest of us would sell candy, and Fred and
Debbie would stay behind in the car. "Boy, did they kiss. Every time was
for the last time. Like Bogart and Bergman at the
"She
was cute, but it wasn't only sexual. Those two were very, very much in love. I
was there. I saw it. I watched them together-kissing, walking, being together.
Fred and I shared the same bedroom and I knew my brother. "It was obvious
they were meant for each other. That romance had so much voltage, it could have
lit the city."
Fred
and Debbie's special song was "Close to You", by the Carpenters, but
that didn't keep them from fighting. Says Mark: "Debbie had a hot temper.
She was very intense and dramatic. So they kissed and fought, kissed and
fought. But they loved each other terribly hard-none of us doubted that."
Debbie also got a kick out of hanging around with all of Fred's brothers,
remembers Mark. "She used to say it was her instant family." Many of
Debbie's teachers still remember her vividly. And they remember her
long-lasting romance with Fred Phelps. "She was craving a family
environment, with all the emotional outlet and loving she imagined went with
it," recalls one. "When she was dating Fred, she thought she'd become
an adjunct member of his family and she wanted to be a part. When she thought
she was, she was very happy."
"She
was such a warm, sweet girl," remembers another, "it's just a shame
what happened to her." "In the car on candy sales and at the skating
rink was the only time they could see each other," says Mark. Apparently
Debbie was either narcoleptic or suffered from epilepsy.
"Periodically
she'd pass out. I saw it happen 10 to 12 times. Suddenly she'd stop talking and
when you looked, she'd be limp, her head back and eyes closed, though still
breathing." Debbie told Fred what it was, but Mark's brother never revealed
it. After they'd been stealing time together for several months, Fred Jr.
somehow found the resources to buy Debbie a gold band with a tiny diamond.
Mark
remembers her showing it off proudly in the car that day. Fred was 17, she was
still 16. They began to talk of getting married. "Before you jump to
conclusions about another teenage marriage," Mark observes, "remember
my family didn't believe in dating around. We believed God would send us our
mates. That it would just happen one day, and we would know it in our hearts.
When it happened, that was it-whether you were 16 or 66. "Of course, my
dad thought he was the god in charge of that. But I wouldn't assume Fred and
Debbie's union would have been another miscast teenage marriage-and therefore
my dad was right to do what he did." Why not?
"Because
my wife of 17 years, and my best friend for 22, is the same Luava Sundgren I
met at the rink that May of '71. We've been together since I was 16 and she,
13, and we're still totally nuts about each other. "You see, I think God
has a hand in these things. And maybe it's naive of me, but I think all that we
went through as kids made us a lot wiser about people than most grownups."
Mark
estimates the passionate romance was kept from their father through the New
Year of 1971. Sometime shortly after, however, the Pastor Phelps caught wind of
his son's happiness. "After that, my father forbade Fred to see her. He
tried everything to get Fred to stop."
Though
Mark's brother was only a few months shy of 18, the pastor regularly took the
mattock to him to stop his 'slinkin' with that whore'. In February of that
year, Debbie left the orphanage and moved back in with her mother and
stepfather in the house on
The
boys would swing by and pick her up there. Shortly after she moved, Fred and
Debbie moved again: they made their bid for a life together free of their
burdened pasts. They eloped. Mark remembers they took one of the family cars, a
'66 Impala wagon. "And I had a pair of top-notch skates. They cost me a
hundred bucks. I was a serious skater back then, and I carried them around in a
slick black case and felt very professional. But my brother Fred took them
along for gas money. He sold them at a rink in
"His
church was the only one my dad approved of-and the reason that was important to
Fred Jr. is the same reason he's-they all-have been unable to escape. "You
see, no matter what differences we had with him as the head of our house, none
of us questioned his authority as head of our church. It was a certified
gathering of the elect, remember. And the only way to get to heaven was to do
that, to assemble with the elect. "My dad interpreted that, and we
accepted it, as membership in a physical congregation certified by him as
elect...The Place... "And there was only one Place besides his-Forrest
Judd's. "So my brother had nowhere to run, you see. Not if he wanted to
get to heaven. To a believer, even the most wonderful love in this world isn't
worth an eternity in the fires of hell. "As long as we accepted my father
had the power to so that-send us all to hell-he had the trump card in any
showdown over our choices." After Judd and the Pastor Phelps conferred by
phone, the father figure convinced Fred Jr. there'd be no room on the Indy bus
to heaven. If he wanted to get there, he'd have to go back to
"School
officials tried to point out to him that Fred and Debbie were teenagers, and
they'd been alone together for over a week-the damage was done." From the
moment the disappointed lovers started down the road they had came, the clock
began to tick toward tragedy.
Back
in
By
this time, Mark had met his future spouse, also at the skating rink, and Luava
was convinced to come to church as well. "The only way we could see his
sons officially," says Luava, "was if we came to his church for
Sunday service. They had no social life; they weren't allowed to date." So
they came to service. Luava remembers that first Sunday: "When I arrived,
Debbie was already there, sitting in one of the pews, waiting for it to begin.
She looked back at me and smiled. I was nervous and her warmth touched me. She
was quite radiant and seemed very happy that day." Luava fared better than
Debbie under the pale-hearted pastor's basilisk eye. She had long hair and was
shy-a quality the pastor mistook for subjection to her man.
"My
father took an instant dislike to Debbie," Mark recalls. "She had all
her signals wrong: she had short hair; she was vivacious, passionate, and
fiery; she was direct; and she had an open, honest laugh." That day, and
forever after, the good pastor called her a 'whore' from the pulpit, in person,
to Fred, and the family. "She didn't argue," says Mark. "She
looked shell-shocked. She started to cry, but did it quietly. After the
service, she disappeared. "After that, he preached to Freddy she was a
whore from pulpit every Sunday. "Then one day," says Mark, "my
father announced that the entire family was going roller skating. Even mom. He
said we'd have some 'fun' together."
The
voice on the phone laughs. "It was a very peculiar experience. You have to
realize, in all the time we were growing up, our family never did that. We
never, not once, went on an outing together. We'd go sell candy, or to run. but
never to have fun. He never took us to the zoo, the movies, out to eat, to the
park, on a picnic, vacation, Thanksgiving at the relatives, to see the
fireworks on the Fourth of July-none of these things.
"Now
you can begin to understand what a selfish man our dad was. We spent our entire
childhoods and adolescence waiting on him and working for him and getting
beaten up by him. The idea of parenthood or fatherhood is an alien concept to
that man. "So we were suspicious when he announced he was taking us all
skating. Sure enough, it turned out he'd caught wind of what was going on down
at the rink." Fred and Mark had made plans to meet Debbie and Luava there
that day, and now the pressure had the drop on them. Though she'd already been
to services at their church, Mark only nodded to Luava as if she were a passing
acquaintance. When the pastor made fun of her parents within earshot of Luava,
Mark felt forced to laugh.
Fred
and Debbie skated together briefly, but they didn't hold hands. Everyone was watching
the good Pastor Phelps. Fred Sr. strapped on a pair of skates and storked out
on the floor looking like a new-born calf on ice. "I wanted to show off
for him," Mark recalls, "so I started skating backwards and doing
jumps when I knew he was watching. Do you think he liked it? No way. My father
went into a seething rage. He said he could see I'd been spending all my goddam
time down there, trying to get my dick wet. What a guy-by the way, both Luava
and I were virgins when we were married...five years after we met."
Possibly due to the stress of the unexpected confrontation, Debbie had another
seizure. In a gloomy portent of what was to come, none of the Phelps boys dared
go to her aid. She lay unconscious and abandoned by the good Christians of Westboro
Baptist before 13 year-old Luava noticed and rushed to her side. At that, the
pastor glared at Mark. "Someone should tell that girl we don't associate
with whores," he glowered. Then, as the steadfast teenager revived her
friend, Good Samaritan Phelps wobbled past on his skates and muttered,
"whore" at Debbie while she was recovering her feet.
The
charitable timing of his comment caused Fred Jr.'s girl to burst into tears.
Luava helped her off the floor and into the ladies' room. "I don't know
why Fred's old man hates me so much," Debbie sobbed. "You're lucky
that he likes you." Luava never forgot the bitterness of those sobs: SOS
from the threshold of a soul's despair. Debbie went to services at the
"Of
course, whenever my father started beating someone, the rest of the kids would
run into the candy room. It was sort of our bomb shelter. They'd be pacing
nervously, waiting for it to end, like a herd of cows from the candy boxes to
the laundry dryers and back. "My father was beating on Fred and screaming
things like, 'You son-of-a-bitch! You got your dick wet! And now you're
sniffin' after that whore!' It made them both feel dirty for what was really
the best thing that had happened to them so far in their lives-their first
love. "Debbie got hysterical when she heard those things. She ran out
crying." Mark pauses. "And we were very nervous because she wasn't
supposed to be in there. I remember several of us followed her out to ensure
she didn't make a scene. That's where we were back then: nothing mattered except
keeping my dad cooled off.
"Outside
in the street, Debbie was crying her heart out. She kept asking, 'why does he
say those things about me?'" Mark isn't sure of the timing, but he
believes shortly after is when Fred, how 18, decided to move out. The pastor vehemently
opposed it, but Fred stood up for himself.
Finally
they compromised: the son would go and live with one of his father's business
associates. Bob Martin was a retired army officer who ran Bo-Mar
Investigations, a private detective agency. After Fred, Jr. had been staying
with Martin for a week in his house, Mark remembers his father got a phone
call. It was Martin.
"Let's
go," said the pastor to Mark, who'd become the squad leader in his
father's schemes. While they drove to the detective's place, the pastor
explained the plan he and Martin had for Fred Jr.: wait till he was in the
shower and then confront him; a naked man feels vulnerable and powerless.
Mark's
father told him Fred Jr. had just come in from work and gone into the bathroom.
"When he comes out, we'll be waiting," chuckled the guardian of one
of the two portals to the
"Get
your clothes! You're going home!" snapped the pastor. The eldest son
complied without argument. "The next part I'll never forget," says
Mark. "When we got out to the car, I was in the back, my father was behind
the wheel, and Fred was in the front passenger seat. Bob had followed us and he
opened the door on my brother's side. "Through the space between the front
seat and the door, I could see him place a revolver against my brother's knee.
And he said: "If you run away again, I have orders to come after you. And
when I catch you, I'm going to shoot you right here." At the time,
'knee-capping' had spread to the
"My
brother was struggling with his love for Debbie and his very real fear of hell.
A lot of non-Christians might find that hard to believe. But if you grew up
with your imagination open to Fred Phelps, believe me, hell was a concrete
reality." The battle inside Fred Jr. would last until the following
spring, but the war had been lost when he turned back from
In
late September, Debbie dropped out of high school and moved in with girlfriends
at a house on
But
the pastor was relentless. And not only with the mattock. "He knew Fred
Jr. was still seeing Debbie, and he hit heavy, heavy on him from the Bible. From
things they said, I think my brother and Debbie had probably become lovers at
some time in the relationship, and I'm sure Fred Jr. felt guilty about that.
"So,
he was vulnerable to my father's framing of the situation as 'Debbie the
Whore...the Agent of Satan sent to lure him into temptation and directly down
into the gaping jaws of hell'." Says Mark: "He'd spend time with her,
then try to avoid her. In addition to the guilt he was getting some pretty bad
beatings. While Fred Jr. drifted in fear, Debbie fought to hand on to the man
she cherished and the only person who'd ever cherished her. Margie Phelps
remembers Debbie would wait for her brother outside after his classes on the
Washburn campus. She would beg him to come back to her in Play-Misty-for-Me
scenarios, where a mentally ill woman stalks her former lover. "If she did
do that," says Luava, "it was in hurt and frustration that he would
betray the love we all knew he felt." "And, besides, it always
worked," Mark adds. "He always went back to her, at least while he
was at Washburn." "I don't think he ever stopped loving her,"
agrees Luava. "He was just more scared of hell than he was of losing
her."
Sometimes
in December, 1971, events turned murky, fast. and fatal. Apparently willing now
to give Debbie up, but afraid he wouldn't be able to do it while they lived in
the same town, and also furious at his father for forcing him to leave her,
Fred Jr. ran away again, despite Bob Martin's threat to find him and kneecap
him if he did so. From late December till mid-February, the following events
are known:
Fred
Jr. disappeared and no one in the family knew his whereabouts. One night in
January, shortly after Nate and Jonathon had been shaved and beaten and the
school had notified the police, Fred Jr. stopped by the house without his
father knowing. Nate remembers he asked to see their heads and then
commiserated with them about their embarrassment at the police station.
About
the same time, Luava's father saw Fred Jr. at a Washburn basketball game. He
had a K-State jacket and a rash on both arms. The other man became concerned
about Fred's welfare, and, with nothing to go on but the jacket and the rash,
he was able to track the troubled youth down working at a produce business in
Fred
Jr. turned down all offers of money or help. At the time, he was living in the
basement of a young married couple. Whether Debbie visited him or even joined
him up there is unknown. What is known us that, on Valentine's Day, Fred Jr.
showed up in
"Betty,"
says Mark, "was a lot closer to what my father demanded. She was another
Luava-or at least who my dad originally thought Luava was- she had long hair,
and she was very quiet and submissive. She had also been raised Methodist. A
lot of Baptists started out as Methodists, you know. "Debbie...was a
Catholic."
A
few weeks after Valentine's, Debbie came to see her mom. Della A. remembers
they went for a walk in the small park near where Debbie had lived with her
friends. Her daughter's spirits were very low, she recalls. Debbie confessed
Fred had given her an engagement ring and they had eloped, but that Fred's dad
had made them come back. She admitted bitterly that his father had told her she
wasn't good enough for his son, and the younger Phelps had been forced to obey
him. "Now Fred's found another girl," she told her mother. As they
walked, Della remembers her daughter took off the ring and threw it in the
bushes. "He's never going to marry me, Mama," she said, "but I
know I'll never love anyone else."
The
mother says she tried to cheer her up, and later, thinking Debbie might regret
it, she returned to search for the ring in the grass. She never found it, and
even if she had, Debbie never would have received it. The mother and daughter's
walk in the park that afternoon would be their last time together. The
remainder of Debbie's hopeful life can be found, not in the memories of those
who knew her, but in the dusty, impersonal files of the U.S. Army Intelligence
Criminal Investigations Division. After seeing her mother that day, Debbie went
up to
She
moved in with a soldier. She shot smack. She partied for days without sleep.
The speed she was constantly on burned through her body till she'd gone from
130 to 87 pounds. In less than a month the 5'7" girl had become a walking
corpse with the wide, burning eyes of the starved. Perhaps that is when her
face could at last reflect her heart: faltering into despair after a lifetime
without sustenance.
Because
the effect was so striking, Debbie's new acquaintance nicknamed here 'Eyes'.
But 'Eyes' had stared into her abyss, and she knew. At the end of all worlds.
Was a single lost soul. The last days of Debbie Valgos' life, those few weeks
in
Each
time they had stopped her or brought her through it. The came the night of
April 17, 1972. Debbie was in the Blue Light, a soldier's bar. Though she had a
soldier waiting at home, that hardly mattered. She let two more pick her up.
When they invited her back to their barracks to 'party', she said 'yes'.
As
they left, a girl who lived in Debbie's house insisted that she come along.
She'd been there during Debbie's earlier attempted suicides, and she worried
that the frail runaway might try it again. They were spirited past the gates of
the fort, hiding on the floor of the car. The soldiers parked in an alley and
had the girls crawl through a window into their barracks room. Once inside, one
of them offered Debbie some speed. It was a bottle of crushed mini-bennies,
according to CID reports. Debbie took it, and the soldier turned to put on a
record. When she gave it back, the boy was amazed. "You took way too
much!" he said. "You'll be up three or four days!"
Debbie
only smiled at him. What might have been a four-day problem for a 180 pound
man, Debbie undoubtedly hoped would solve all her problems at 87 pounds, less
than half the other's body weight. Shortly after, "Eye started to have a
'body trip'," states the girl who had accompanied her. "She shut her
eyes and just started moving with the music. She did that for awhile and then
she started to act dingy. She called me over and said she felt like little
needles were poking her all over her whole body and she was tingling. I told
her I would stay with her and not to make any noise in the barracks." When
Debbie started rolling around on the floor and mumbling, her friend worried she
might hurt herself, and so she sat on her.
The
other girl, who apparently was quite obese, continued drinking and talking while
she kept Debbie pinned beneath her. The party went on. Debbie was babbling
incoherently. After almost another hour, everyone became alarmed at Eye's
grotesque physical contortions. They pulled her back through the window, loaded
her in the car, and smuggled her off base. Returning to her new boyfriend's
house, they woke him and ran the tub full of cold water. By then, Debbie had
passed into coma. She would not be taken to Irwin Army Hospital At Ft. Riley
until 5 a.m., nearly five hours after she'd ingested almost half a bottle of
crushed benzedrine. Debbie lasted 20 hours unconscious in ICU, just long enough
for her sister, Bernadette, to find her. At 1 a.m., her heart stopped. Her
spirit had flamed up and was gone. She was 17. She was sunny and loving and
only wanted to be loved. After all she'd been through, Debbie Valgos thought
she'd found safe haven with the family Phelps. She died for her mistake. In
that spring of 1972, one of the Top 40 songs playing on the rock and roll
radios Debbie no doubt listened to while riding her dark current of heroin,
amphetamines, and despair was a tribute to Janis Joplin, sung by Joan Baez:
"She once walked right by my side I know she walked by yours, Her striding
steps could not deny Torment from a child who knew, That in the quiet morning
There would be despair, And in the hours that followed No one could repair...
That poor girl... Barely here to tell her tale, Rode in on a tide of misfortune
Rode out on a mainline rail... But the Pastor Phelps, devotee of a hateful god,
had made up a song of his own: "I remember getting home from school the
day it appeared in the papers," says Mark, "and my dad came dancing
down the stairs, swaying from the knees and clapping his hands, singing: 'The
whore is dead! The whore is dead!' "He paraded around the house, singing
and laughing with that maniacal giggle he has, 'the whore is dead!'" Mark
pauses to let the horror of the scene settle in. One is reminded of the warning
from the first epistle of
"Fred
was crying," says Margie. "I heard afterward it was for Debbie."
"There's no question that my brother wanted to spend his life with
Debbie," says Mark. "She was who he loved. And I knew her well enough
to say my brother was the first light of hope she'd had in her life. When he
left her, that light went out."
The
phone voices, bouncing along microwave relays from
Della
A. is more direct. She has a message for the pastor: "You tell Fred Phelps
I'll wait in hell for him." Margie remembers Debbie's sister, Bernadette,
knocked on their door one day. "She went on about how we were responsible
for Debbie's death." Bernadette admits doing that. "I do blame
them," she says. "My sister had a tough enough time without those
people. If she hadn't met them, she'd probably be alive today." "We
thought she was really coming along," reflects a former staff member at
Topeka West. "Of all the kids there who had difficult backgrounds to
overcome, we felt sure she'd be one of those who would." No one who knew
her has forgotten her. Not the sisters at
No
one else remembers that. "Oh...oh, I remember now. The little girl at the
orphanage?" Two years later, Fred Jr. married Betty, the woman he'd
brought home that Valentine's Day. Betty was approved by his father.
She
was the second woman he'd ever dated. For the moment, this article shall
abandon cynicism and consider beginner's luck in the search for mates. After
all, Mark Phelps is quite happy with his first date of 22 years ago. So is
Luava. And, if Fred Jr. and Debbie were destined for each other, what happy
chance they met on his first date. However, the odds that Fred would then meet
Miss Right directly after he met Debbie begin to gnaw at the suspension of
disbelief in this fire and brimstone fiction of predestined characters. "I
think not being able to have Debbie, and her committing suicide, I think that
just broke my brother," observes Mark. "After that, he submitted
totally. He'd lost his thrill for life. He went to law school, like his dad
wanted; he married a girl his dad approved; and he shouldered a role in The
Place. "And that's where he is today. He just turned 40." Betty was a
music major at K-State when she met Fred Jr. She had perfect pitch and played
between eight and ten instruments. However, she transferred to Washburn for her
last two years of college, and went to law school on command. Mark remembers a
time in 1973, when Betty was visiting Fred Jr. in the kitchen and the pastor
started beating Nate savagely with the mattock in an adjoining room. Betty had
been eating a cantaloupe and she shoved her spoon all the way through it and
screamed: Stop it!" Says Mark: "The old man came in from the church
where he'd been beating Nate, and he said to Betty: 'You got a problem with
this?' Then he turned to Fred Jr.: "If that girl has a problem with this,
then I'm not going to put up with it! You better get her under subjection, or
you're not gonna be marryin' her!"
In
one of his fax missives, the pastor has stated: "Wives who have strayed
too far traditional family values of home and children need to be whipped into
godly obedience. Sparing the rod and sparing either the children or the women
is a strategy that fundamentalist Christians reject. Complacency and misplaced
'equality' notions produce tormented, social misfits like (here Phelps names
several female city officials) who are hormonally and intellectually incapable
of rational thought. Like the termite, these so-called modern ideas promulgated
by Satan's servants are destroying the studs of the family unit." Nate
remembers: "Betty was put in her place, both by the old man and Freddy.
And she was the butt of numerous comments from the pulpit over the following
months until she finally displayed the 'proper spirit of obedience'.
Luava
recalls that, some time after Debbie's death, Betty and she were talking when
suddenly Fred's new girl started crying. "He still carries her picture in
his wallet," she sobbed. "He's in love with a dead girl." The
Phelps family forbade reporters from asking Fred Jr. about Debbie Valgos during
interviews, and threatened to sue the paper if it printed the story of the
couple's broken dreams.
"That
child was very precious to us," says the former director of
No
man or woman living on the Phelps block has been allowed to become the plant foreshadowed
by the seed. This chapter has revealed the betrayal and murder of three spirits
by Phelps, would-be prophet of the subdivided prairie, hopeful
Kathy
Phelps' life remains at the level of subsistence and self- destruction. Her
brother, Nate, has been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is
quite likely that Kathy suffers from it also. Today, but for the statute of
limitations, the brutal beatings and torture this pretty teenager experienced
would bring a long jail sentence to their perpetrator.
Fred
Jr. never became a history teacher. Recently, he left the law profession and
works for the Kansas Department of Corrections. Debbie Valgos died of a broken
heart. A quick survey of the curricula vitae of the Phelps children shows his
astonishing success in their conforming to his wishes. In fact, the Phelps Plan
because a sausage factory for loyal and legal support of one man's ambitions:
*Of the 13 children, 11 got law degrees-nine of those from Washburn University
*Of the nine loyal offspring and four approved spouses, all but one took law
degrees; eight have undergraduate degrees in Corrections or Criminal Justice.
One can only wonder why the pandemic fascination for prison among the Phelps
loyalists. For the nine kids who stayed with Fred, God provided only three
spouses from within the church. Fred Jr. and brother Jonathon had to provide
for themselves. They became Westboro outlaws to find mates among the damned.
When
they eventually returned to the fold, these 'tainted women' were only accepted
after a long probation and apprenticeship at being a wife-in-subjection. Six of
the Phelps daughters remain the compound. Two of the, were betrothed to
Pastor
Phelps would be wise to take a quick poll of the home team, especially his
daughters. He might find his glass house full of mischief. The misadventures of
the clan Phelps can be pursued into allegations of adultery, fornication,
illegitimacy, and abortion without fear of libel.
However,
since it is also the thesis of this article that his children are actually the
principal victims of Pastor Phelps, it is not appropriate to expose the rest of
these embarrassing stories in detail. Despite their strident condemnation of
others' equal and lesser sins, it will suffice to point out the foibles of his
children would make as interesting reading for the pastor's fax gossip as
anything he's printed. If those without sin shall toss the first stones, the
grim clan at Westboro will have to keep a tight grip on theirs. With his
private genetic following, Pastor Phelps has found a world perhaps he's always
sought. One where they care for him and do his bidding and never leave him. To
make that happen required the promise of their youth be devoted to the
unsettled scores of his past. Fred Phelps crushed the innocence and joy, the
dreams of all but three of his children. His reputation as a civil rights
advocate is perhaps ironic. The pastor's chains are subtle, but stronger than
the iron ones worn by the ancestors of those he often brags he's helped free.
The children who were raised in the nightmare of
Sitting
in her mother's house, the sinking afternoon sun pours through the screen door,
casting its soft gold across the widow's tattered carpet. Della A. offers, a
little reluctantly and her eyes bright with guilt, the last moments of her
daughter: a First Communion veil; a dried corsage from an Easter Sunday
get-to-together, and the photo album Debbie kept at the orphanage. On its
cover, printed in the awkward, block letters of a bruised but hopeful new reed,
a flickering candle not yet quenched, are the words:
I
LOVE FRED PHELPS
"Debbie
Valgos was a whore extraordinaire," snaps Margie. But the father's words
sound empty and formulaic on the daughter's tongue.
Excerpted from Addicted
to Hate, Chapter Seven; highlighting mine.
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